February 2012
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Living with the boyfriend
A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I took a positive step. I moved into his apartment. We switched rooms with his apartment mate and adjusted the rent accordingly. My parents helped me move my little sister’s old bed and my black IKEA dresser into the room. Otherwise, I brought my clothes, a few books, DVDs and stools. There wasn’t much else to bring since my boyfriend and his...
January 2012
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"He who loves ideals hopes to be loved by ideals...
In college, I worked in a library and to pass the time, I sometimes read random books on the shelves. One of those books was Forbidden Colors by Yukio Mishima, a ultra-nationalist Japanese author who obsessed with masculine bodies, led a private militia and eventually committed seppuku. If you search for images of him, you’ll likely get his decapitated head. Maybe if you’re lucky,...
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The Sundance Diaries: I Made This Film To Come Out... →
My friend Andrew Ahn is showing a film at Sundance, which is no small feat. His story behind its making is very heart wrenching and definitely worth reading/sharing. The trailer can be found here and a small quote is below.
I wrote and directed a short film about a gay Korean-American man who goes to his baby nephew’s dol, a traditional Korean first birthday celebration. For the dol...
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December 2011
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Race Fever
Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of white-Asian gay couples/dates like in SGV and Little Tokyo. I wonder if it’s racist to assume that either has a fever for the other. After all, they might actually like each other beyond their skin color and not based on presumptions from porn. That is, unless my initial assumptions are right.
A guy in my psychology class said he thought...
Me: Okay so if orientation is a choice, choose to be gay, right now.
Him: No.
Me: Why not?
Him: Because I don't find men attractive
Me: So CHOOSE to find them attractive
Him: ....... I can't.
Me: Sorry, WHAT was that? You CAN'T????
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Gays and Children
I personally find it really attractive when a gay guy plays with kids. If I had a baby maker, it would definitely stir up the estrogen. As long as he’s not a pedophile.
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November 2011
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attractive from behind
I have this recurring problem when I check out guys. They look good from behind in terms of a strong back, tight butt and slender legs. Good clothes also help. But when they turn around, I see a beer belly or a face only a mother could love.
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October 2011
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The gaysian world is small.
It’s always fun looking at my Gaysian Facebook list and realizing that everyone kinda knows or has met everyone else. It’d make an interesting six degrees of separation.
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Touch
Sometimes, I have to remember how important it is to be touched. Not necessarily in a sexual way, but in a personal way. A hug, a handshake, a pat on the back, a caress. It affirms affection among friendships and relationships in a way that words can’t express.
I remember learning in psychology about baby monkeys raised without a mother’s touch. The monkeys became disturbed and...
September 2011
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Lower Testosterone ≠ Gay
Me: So, I read this article today in the New York Times. In the Philippines, they did this study of 600 men from Cebu. They measured their testosterone at 21 and saw that their hormones dropped years later. You know why?
Mom: Oh NO! Did they all turn GAY?
Me: (shocked) NO. THEY BECAME DADS.
July 2011
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Anonymous asked: Pretty sure you've always wanted to see me naked.. Well.. I'm feeling pretty adventurous today so go to datelink3(dot)com (switch [dot] with .) then sign up and find my profile under the username 'lolsummer69'. I hid my face in the pictures. but I want you to guess who I am and then hit me up on Facebook lol. Good luck.
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Dear really hot Asian guy at the pool with the...
I admit that I’ve noticed you around at the Sunset Rec pool before so when you asked me with a smile if I wanted to go ahead of you (even though you clearly belong in the faster lane), I was quite dumbstruck. My nervous smile and blurted answer, “No thanks, I’m just resting,” could barely contain my (sexual) attraction. I hope you noticed that I was swimming at top speed when I did go ahead of you...
June 2011
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May 2011
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name calling
Last week, I posted a picture of myself wearing a tank top in somewhat of a Myspace pose. I had worked out that day and felt good about the way I looked. I got some good feedback and was happy with that. I even had my boyfriend’s consent to post it.
My sister IMed me later and told me that I looked like a “fratguy manslut” and a “douche”. I had gotten negative...
April 2011
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Anonymous asked: What's your secret to a long-term gay relationship? I just admire you and your boyfriend, for sustaining a long-term and long distance relationship throughout college and even afterward. :)
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March 2011
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Opinion L.A. - Catholics and gays: Closer than you... →
Catholics are more supportive of legal recognition of same-sex relationships than members of any other Christian tradition and Americans overall. Nearly three-quarters of Catholics favor either allowing gay and lesbian people to marry (43%) or allowing them to form civil unions (31%). Only 22% of Catholics say there should be no legal recognition of a gay couple’s relationship.
Well...
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disarming good looks
It’s not very often that I come across someone incredibly (physically) attractive. When it does happen during some passing glance or minor interaction, it’s terribly disorienting and embarrassing. Just today at work, this college student came by the lab to drop off samples for a study and his good looks, earnest demeanor and jokes about being like a Fedex courier caught me off guard in...
February 2011
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things left unsaid
Someone I had met at a party asked me if I had a boyfriend a few days after meeting him. Apparently, others had asked him if he knew and having just met me, he didn’t know. I told him I did and asked why no one bothered to ask me. He said that gaysians won’t flat out ask. I was flattered but it made me wonder if I was acting like I didn’t have a boyfriend and if that was the...
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Happy Together
I found out about this movie when I was a freshman during some online search for gay, non-pornographic Asian cinema. It was the first time I had heard of Wong Kar-Wai or Tony Leung Chiu-Wai and the more I learned, the more I wanted to see it. It was hard to find online so on a whim, I bought a pirated copy on Ebay and watched it on my laptop.
It took me several views to appreciate the organic...
January 2011
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How to be Gay « Thought Catalog →
Be a proud gay man and a self-loathing asshole. Have a bitchy attitude towards gays who are different from you and fail to understand why. Go out of your way to avoid stereotypes. You aren’t promiscuous and you don’t really do drugs. Wear these facts like a badge of honor. Become a holier-than-thou bitch. Despise the narcissism and vanity that pervades gay culture. Succumb to doing crunches...
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Why Being Gay Is Gay « Thought Catalog →
Thought this was an interesting read when he starts quoting his posts. I thought the part, “I feel like a traitor to my own culture but then I realize that the idea of this collective gay culture is problematic. The only thing we all share in common is that we like dick,” was somewhat insightful. I’d follow him on Twitter if I ever back-down and get one.
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Bound to Happen: You Can Do Better →
bound-to-happen:
I’ve been getting a lot of flak for having gone out with my most recent ex and everyone always tells me, “You can do better.” What does that mean? Sure, he might not have been the most attractive person in the world and he might not have been the brightest bulb in the pack, but I had my completely legitimate reasons for going out with him and to say “you can do better”...
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As gay becomes bourgeois →
So now openly gay soldiers get to fight and die in neocon-imperialist wars too?
With ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ repealed and gays seeking marriage equality, the homosexual bourgeoisie is emerging — a concept subversive to both liberals and conservatives.
This article reminded me of the time I read The Hours by Michael Cunningham in high school. One part involved a...
December 2010
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-quantumleaps asked: i get the same appeal you have. I only look up to women (and interestingly enough, besides House, I usually relate to women on tv shows).
also just wanted to say imogen heap<3 favorite artist. haha.
also just wanted to say imogen heap<3 favorite artist. haha.
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the appeal of a diva
Like a lot of gays, I understand the appeal of a diva. Over the years, I’ve become drawn to empowered women who are able to work through their struggles (often involving men) with an ethereal sense beauty and glamour that I, as a male, could not quite grasp. I’m not quite sure why; maybe I just prefer to see women acting in dramatic roles or listen to female voices over male ones.
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a list of admissions
I don’t think Darren Criss is all that cute. His eyebrows are bushy and he looks like he’d fit with the other hobbits in Lord of the Rings. He gets points for being half-Filipino though.
If you’re curious as to what my first serious gay crush looked like, google image “Blake Harper.” He kinda looked like that but less bulky. He was a hurdler who was into web design,...
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starry sky
This year, December 8th will mark my 3-year anniversary with my boyfriend. The story behind that date isn’t that we went on our first date or when we first decided that we were officially going out. Instead, it’s a small moment that I remember quite vividly.
My boyfriend (let’s call him B) had told me that he liked me earlier in the semester but I turned him down, unable to...