living.in.technicolor

Sometimes, I have to remember how important it is to be touched. Not necessarily in a sexual way, but in a personal way. A hug, a handshake, a pat on the back, a caress. It affirms affection among friendships and relationships in a way that words can’t express.

I remember learning in psychology about baby monkeys raised without a mother’s touch. The monkeys became disturbed and unstable as a result, even when reintegrated with others. I hate to think of what happens to guys who only know touch within a sexual setting without love or friendship.

I enjoy a good cuddle with my boyfriend now and then. I’m not so comfortable doing that with friends yet, although I like to greet others with a hug or a handshake. You can tell a lot about a person from the roughness of their palms, the position of their arms or firmness of their grip. Just don’t assume more when there isn’t anything.