What's your secret to a long-term gay relationship? I just admire you and your boyfriend, for sustaining a long-term and long distance relationship throughout college and even afterward. :)from Anonymous
Awww, why thank you, Anonymous. I don’t know if it’s really a secret but I think these are the most important things:
Accommodate. If you get angry over something, resolve it maturely. Don’t stay mad too long. Also, you don’t have to change everything about yourself to stay with someone but you shouldn’t expect him/her to change everything either. Trust accordingly. Communicate often and honestly.
Avoid ruminating on “what-if.” I think that’s the most poisonous idea to have when making friends and flirting, as I’ve learned during our long distance period. Sure, dating such-and-such wouldn’t be bad and you’d get to experience new things but could you live with the regret of breaking up with your boyfriend on such a whim? Is the relationship you built worth ending? Are things that intolerable? If the answer is no to any of these, then you should stay together. It’s not worth a one-night-stand or an fruitless series of dates.
Learn/do new things. Explore your environment; find events to do. Share what makes you happy. Don’t be bored or dwell on the past. Also, you can never know everything about your boyfriend; only he knows himself. There’s always going to be something surprising about him.
