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Awww, why thank you, Anonymous. I don’t know if it’s really a secret but I think these are the most important things:

Accommodate. If you get angry over something, resolve it maturely. Don’t stay mad too long. Also, you don’t have to change everything about yourself to stay with someone but you shouldn’t expect him/her to change everything either. Trust accordingly. Communicate often and honestly.

Avoid ruminating on “what-if.” I think that’s the most poisonous idea to have when making friends and flirting, as I’ve learned during our long distance period. Sure, dating such-and-such wouldn’t be bad and you’d get to experience new things but could you live with the regret of breaking up with your boyfriend on such a whim? Is the relationship you built worth ending? Are things that intolerable? If the answer is no to any of these, then you should stay together. It’s not worth a one-night-stand or an fruitless series of dates.

Learn/do new things. Explore your environment; find events to do. Share what makes you happy. Don’t be bored or dwell on the past. Also, you can never know everything about your boyfriend; only he knows himself. There’s always going to be something surprising about him.

Haha, Imogen Heap ranks as one of my favorites too. I really enjoyed her 2nd album, especially Canvas. From what I can tell from her videos, she seems very down-to-earth in personality but really eccentric in her style, which is refreshing. I also like that she performs as a one-person band and that her voice is so powerful.

Thanks for the compliments. I’m glad you find it interesting to read. I don’t consider myself “out” to my family; it’s more of an unspoken fact that I haven’t addressed openly or honestly. It’s still a goal and even if they already know as it has been pointed out to me, I have to do it on my own terms. So for now, all these thoughts will remain here. 

I apologize for not updating this; I’ve been having writer’s block lately and I’m not sure what to write about anymore or what people want me to write about (which shouldn’t matter in the bigger scheme of things but feedback is both helpful and addictive). My main blog is here if you’re interested.

Thanks.

Thanks! Yeah, it’s kind of nice to be blogging about other things on my mind for once. Thanks for sticking by.

I’m applying for med school this year (a possibly miraculous or disastrous affair) and taking a Stats class. Plus, my ideas for videos have been rather nil. I need to get rather uninhibited before I make them, or just in the habit.

I haven’t, but I’ve heard of the issue, mostly concerning a gay couple in Malawi who announced their engagement. I’m sad to see that some of its origins lie in an American evangelist’s hatred and that religious fervor is driving political decisions (as it’s sometimes the case in the US). I just wish that the people of Uganda weren’t so easily swayed by Western ideas against homosexuality and allowed to judge for themselves. But all of Africa has a tortured/history relationship with Europe and the United States as it is so I guess it’s getting more complicated.

I think I answered a similar question like this here so you can read that if you want. Or you can just ask me personally.

I guess the idea of being disowned and disappointing my parents. I’m the only son in my family, so the pressure to have a heteronormative future is rather strong. Add the fact that I’m Asian, the son of an immigrant mom, and filial piety comes into play. I want to be more confident and self-established before I make it official. They’ve met my boyfriend and have even let him stay over, but it’s still the elephant in the room when he’s around. They’ve already found some telling pictures when I was in middle school that hinted at my sexuality but I still want to wait until I’m ready or whenever they are ready to accept it.

I think it will eventually, maybe in the next 20 years or so. Public attitude towards homosexuality has changed a lot in the last 40 years and today’s generation is more open to the idea of same-sex marriage than their voting parents and grandparents. Still, it’s going to take awhile given that there are a lot of young people out there who are not so open minded.

However, with a little legislative, voter or judicial leverage (perhaps at the federal level) and more exposure in society and media, it can be done. People just need to get over the idea that it perverts marriage more than America’s high divorce rate and that gay parents can’t raise kids normally.